Four tips on how to avoid a fight minutes

Four tips on how to avoid a fight minutes 1. Do not take the bait. A personal attack is the way of his victims to play their game. Think of them as a personal attack by launching a line of fishing bait is waiting to bite. Once the bait, then the game - won by default, because the victim, now has become an easy target for further attacks. Even if the victim is fast lip, are still fighting an uphill battle because they are defensive and not offensive. Make a conscious deciscion not take the bait and not to play their game. Take care not to play your reaction emotinally.2. Avoid "you" word. It 'really easy to tell when someone is angry with another due to start filming "YOU" statements all over the place. "YOU" statements of accused in nature. "You are (blank)" "You did (blank)" "You said (blank)" is to signal the other person is a criticism that his path and achieve the defensive, as if someone their shovels and their struggle for a punch. For examples of this town, just look at some posts here on this forum .... There are a lot of angry "YOU rambling statements. Instead, reflect on their statements with "I" or pull closer to you through the use of "we." 3rd Sympathize with them. When you're angry with someone for the things that made for a moment try to put in place and see things from their perspective. Often, it is assumed that the errors are against us personally, when unitentional. Once, as a new employee of a company, I have my head contantly beraten common rookie to make mistakes - after all, mistakes are how we all lea and improve, right? After a bad case of me screaming my head - in front of my fellow employees. I simply asked if he has made mistakes like the first time that you started and how it might work better for the same thing does not happen again. This made him change his tune real quick because I was looking through the eyes of someone who has had 20 years of experience in their hands. I had 5 days of experience. I did see the situation with my perspective has changed, and his opinion on everything. Therefore, we try to sympathize with them first and see if it was an honest mistake. And if it is deliberately done, then its time to relax and spend forward.4. N. fighting - educate them. Statement may be what is good and many people say they do, instead of aggression, but the problem with being assertive is that also leads to conflicts between two people. This is essentially the same throughout, only a polite way so that the other party does not feel compelled to defend themselves. While this might work to prevent further attacks, but does little to satisfy the continuing resentment undeeath, and still harbor ill feelings towards you, despite the calm after viewing assertiveness. When harsh criticism, or abuse occurs .... I have found to work best is to tell how your words make me feel. The theory behind this is that it offers no objective for them ..... to strike them aware that their words have hurt ..... and often feel guilty or (assuming you do not have a socipathic behavior) for what they said. Then say something like: "I feel (blank) when I cried." Or pose as an innocent question like, "Why do we say something that is harmful to me?" If we do not offer any resistance to their attack and, instead of educating them to use their attack, then its not support, or making them, but will be empowered to take control and education and what not do.Tristan Loo is an expert negotiator and expert on conflict resolution. Use your experience in law enforcement for training in other prinicples for defusing conflict and reaching agreements. Visit their website or e-mail directly CEO@acrsonline.com